Sunday, September 16, 2018

86. Taking the Fight to the In-laws


Class Teaching (Family Management, Paper IV – Family Politics)

Teacher: “Criticism and display of dislike from in-laws are common to all married couples. One has to live with it, but that does not mean one has to take it hands down.

“Some part of it should be simply ignored, but you should also know when to draw a line and how to tell people that they are crossing it.

“Remember, that an arranged marriage will always give you a better standing with your in-laws than a love marriage. In an arranged marriage you are handpicked by your in-laws. Now, if according to them, you have turned to be a complete disappointment after a few years, then that means they do not how to select a groom or a bride.

“Do not belittle this fact. This is a strong argument on your side. Remember this very well. If you are completely worthless as a spouse, then your in-laws were even bigger idiots to select you for their son or daughter. If ever things get that heated, let them know that.

“But if you had a love marriage, you cannot blame your in-laws. But, you can blame their son or daughter, to whom you are married. And then by lineage, you can insult them. That is one option.

“The other option is to stay in love with your husband or wife, so that whenever your in-laws raise an issue, their son or daughter will fight it for you.

“Be in love and stay in love. That is your best weapon in a love marriage.”

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